LOSE CONTROL!!

“If everything’s under control, you’re going too slow.”   Mario Andretti   I know this one well.  Life can be spent just kind of casually surviving, or it can be fulfilling.  It really cannot be both.  At least, not at the same time.  It has been in those times when I am in hot pursuit of…

MAKE FRIENDS NOT FANS

‎”We all know that perfection is a mask…The people with whom we have the deepest connection are those who acknowledge their weaknesses.”  Parker Palmer   You know what?  People don’t want to admire you.  They want to identify with you.  The goal in life is not to have “fans”.  The goal in life is to…

TALK Less~LISTEN More

“People have remote controls in their heads today, if you don’t catch their interest, they just click you off.”  Myrna Marofsky      Pop quiz-Is the best way to catch someone else’s interest to talk about you, or to talk about them?  We waste so much time and energy trying to “sell ourselves”.  Other people…

REFUSE TO MAKE AN AGREEMENT WITH FAILURE!!

“Never bend your head. Hold. Look the world straight in the eye.”  Helen Keller   Helen Keller had it just a little tough wouldn’t you say?  Yet, she made an amazing name and legacy for herself; wouldn’t you further say?  We as normal functioning individuals justify our excuses as reasons for failure.  Pitiful yes?  We all do…

What Winners Know

“The difficulties and struggles of today are but the price we must pay for the accomplishments and victories of tomorrow.”  William J.H. Boetcker   I think the key difference between winners and losers is simply the winner’s ability to pick themselves up everyday and to begin anew.  Winners don’t wait for good things to happen…

All You Have To Do Is Ask!!

“All miscommunications are the result of different assumptions.”  Jerry Ballard   NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING!!  ASK!!  All too often things go awry simply because different people are looking at the same situation from a different perspective.  Take my marriage for instance.  I think I am practically perfect in every way and that I am right all the…

How To Create Influence By Blowing YOUR Horn

“If you don’t live it, it won’t come out of your horn!”  Charlie Parker (One of Jazz Music’s all-time great sax players)   Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.  You influence others through your actions.    People know the person that you are.  People believe what they see.  Are what you say and what…

Can You Take The Risk?

“I think we should follow a simple rule; if we can take the worst, take the risk!” Dr. Joyce Brothers   Ask yourself the key question:  What is really the worst that can happen?  Compare your answer to the pain of regret, or the pain of living a life that brings you less than you…

How Eagles Operate

“Our duty is to be useful, not according to our desires, but according to our powers.” Henri Frederic Amiel Do you ever think: “I am just one person, what can I do to help people in need?” When my son Christopher was 6 years old he collected over 1100 pairs of shoes for an organization…

EDGING GOD IN!!

“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.” Lao Tzu   A wise man recently told me that EGO stands for Edging God Out!  We are so much more effective in life when we truly act outside of…